Monday, March 28, 2011
Update on FL
It's not going so well with FL. He seems to be losing the power in his right hand - the one he writes with. He can't grip a pen. He also has a sore throat, making talking uncomfortable, and he is very tired.% He went to golf on Sunday and fell out with two of his friends. Apparently he had given them a telling-off on Saturday for being too slow on the golf course. (Dexy talk? But he took his steroids on Wednesday so they should have worn off by Saturday!) They had laughed it off at the time, but on Sunday, when they offered him a chance to apologise, he refused and by the sound of it, ranted at them. One walked off the course and refused to play with him. The other played but didn't talk to him for the entire round and left immediately after the final hole. I wondered why he was home early: there was nobody to have a drink with in the clubhouse. So he says he is giving up golf.% Anyone who knows FL knows that golf is a vital part of his routine. Since he fell ill, it has been the barometer of his health - he gets out on the course come hell or high water. He has to be feeling really bad for it to stop his game. His annual membership fee is due on 31 March and he had been muttering about it being a waste of money if he is not fit enough to play.% So has he engineered this row to use as an excuse to give up, because of how he is feeling? But of course, it's no use to leave himself with no hobby and no friends! % I told him he should go and see the rest of the group at the clubhouse today- even if he doesn't play. The two he fell out with won't be there on a Monday, so he can make peace with the others. He wasn't keen. % When I left the house this morning he was trying to chip the glass out of the old front door, to re-use on the kitchen skylight. % This is a stupid plan for many reasons: 1. He might cut himself, which is very bad when on Warfarin; 2. It would have to be cut to size and he has no equipment; 3. No professional glassfitter would use frosted glass to patch a skylight; 4. No glassfitter (professional or otherwise) would try to patch a skylight - we need a new one; 5. If FL thinks he can do it himself... OMG words fail me - he shouldn't be up on the roof anyway!% However, if his right hand is as weak as he says, he won't get the glass out of the door in the first place. Sorted. Ugh.% P.S. I am having trouble with Blogger refusing to insert paragraph breaks. Apologies for the above stream-of-consciousness deluge - there ought to be breaks where I have inserted a % sign.
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8 comments:
Get that man AWAY from the glass door! Mine fell through one and nearly lost his hand! Mood changes must be really hard to deal with - for him and you and everyone else. Are the golf buddies aware of the effect of the Dexys plus the many other health issues he's having to deal with right now? They should cut him a bit of slack.
Tsk. You wanna vent and the computer plays up and just piles it on.
I hope FL makes it to the club today and can sort it out with the other two friends later.
Hey just what you need, something else to worry about.
PS - I have glass cutting equipment should you need it! ;D
I'm so sorry to hear this - it sounds difficult in more ways than one. Can you get some compassionate leave from work? I wish I could do something to help. Bon courage! Sending you lots of good thoughts.
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Sorry to hear how things are, so stressful for you.
I think it's common for guys to get angry when their body is failing them. I've known a few who got really argumentative when their health was giving them trouble and they couldn't do the things they used to do. I hope FL will work it out. Hopefully his friends will be a little understanding too. Now is no time to be tossing friends overboard. In-laws...yes, friends..... ya need to hang on to a few.
I'm sorry to hear the poor news. I hope that things change around and he's able to resume his golfing. My thoughts are with you.
Agree with all above.. Praying...
Oh dear, this is distressing news. Is there someone among the buddies you could talk to that might prevail upon the two who were 'put off' to have a bit of understanding of the situation?
And Tim's Wife is correct that men often conjure up situations to reinforce their justifications for changing a pattern previously desired. My father, who had developed a shuffle, start railing at the cobbler for his failure to properly adjust the new heels when what he was experiencing was a gradual leak from an anurysm in his brain. And thus he claimed he could no longer go for walks, something he loved to do in the evening.
If he cannot continue golfing, perhaps he could at least enjoy going to the club and perhaps the membership would adjust his fees accordingly under the circumstances. I shall be intending that this gets sorted out for the highest and best good of all concerned, so be it and SO IT IS!
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