Saturday, December 19, 2015

Advent sock day 19

FL is home!
Today I had two further encounters with That Nurse...
 (1) When I arrived at 11.30am she said it was not certain that FL would be going home today and we would "just have to wait and see" despite her being the one who was so keen to shove us out of the door yesterday;
and
(2) At 2pm, when FL had been waiting half an hour for her to acknowledge that he had pressed his buzzer, she sauntered past and said "Still waiting for your painkillers?  Why didn't you send your wife to find someone?"
I said "I thought that was what the buzzer was for?  Is that not what you told me the other day?  How is anyone supposed to know what the system is?"
She smirked and carried on walking, giving no indication that she intended to bring FL his drugs.
So when I overheard the doctors discussing FL and the original plan for his release on Monday, I was determined he had to come home immediately, to get out of the way of that unkind self-important little madam.
The nice Haematology doctor and another I did not recognise came to see us. They wanted to be sure we would cope at home.  FL was at that point still waiting for his morphine.  It had been almost an hour.  While the doctors were there, Little Madam appeared with it and hovered at the edge of the curtain.
I said "He needs to come home now so that I can be sure he gets his painkillers when he needs them, and not when it suits other people." 
Little Madam handed FL the pill with a stony face.
And I really really hope she gets into trouble, but I don't suppose she will.
It is now 10pm and all is calm.
FL is asleep in his chair.  The dog is asleep in his basket.  I am not quite asleep on the sofa.
We will be fine.

Continue with sock B. Take a look into your wallet and knit 19 rows with the colour of the bill you first see. If you don't use cash, pick the colour from your bankcard. 

Tricky - I couldn't possibly knit a third blue stripe.  
Let's pretend I have a twenty pound note in my purse, OK? ;)

30 comments:

Jen Forsythe said...

OMG, I have so been there this past few months with my dad. So glad FL is home, you have been so strong (you have to be, let's face it!), whilst most of the health service is good, there is always this feeling of 'being on top of it and having to fight your corner, watching and checking everything' You are doing well, he is so lucky to have you, but it's hard work! With all my experiences with both my mum and especially my dad lately, I often wonder about the folk that have no nearest and dearest to fight their corner. Hope everything goes ok next week.

Redhedhels said...

So glad you are back home together. Not sure why people think it's in their job description to make everyone's life harder, but there's always one isn't there?

Wakeymakes said...

So glad he is home safe. I had surgery last year with an epidural for pain relief. They told me when it wore off I would be in pain and had been written up for a dose of morphine. Please take it they said. Then you will sleep well and feel better tomorrow. 4 hours of begging and they relented and gave me 2 paracetamol. A 9 inch cut for a full abdominal hysterectomy. You can imagine how well they helped. Barbaric when I had been prescribed more. This is happening too often. FL needs medication at regular intervals. Glad you are off work now and can spend time together. Love and Yorkshire hugs K xXx

HappyAcademicRunner said...

Why is this woman a nurse? Glad FL is home. I wish you both a restful night. Xx

Athene said...

So very glad to hear that FL is home - I hope the local support will be more helpful and less obstructive.

Knitlass said...

Yay! Glad to hear you are both at home now. So happy for you both.

Jenny Larking said...

That nurse is a sadist. Glad you managed to escape her clutches and I hope you make a formal complaint to The PALS. They will have to investigate and respond.

Mary said...

Glad to hear you are both home and things are going along ok. Mary

Sewing as Therapy said...

I will never understand why people like that choose to be nurses, let alone work in wards caring for people in FLs situation where patient comfort is so critical. I'm so glad you're both home, so you can make the most of this time. Sending you best wishes from Oz. hope the Home care things all fall into place.

sulkycat said...

Definitely worth having a word with PALs, it is what they are there for.
Wonderful that FL is home, that is the best news.

MaryinTN said...

So glad FL and you are finally home. Very glad the Macmillan is helping. Your are both in our thought and prayers

andrea said...

She won't get in to trouble unless you report her for her despicable behaviour. I speak as a former nurse. She would have been sacked for that sort of behaviour on the ward I worked on. I know she won't be your top priority now but at least speak to someone who has some connections. FL might end up on that ward again soon and you don't want her to be doing the same thing again.

You are both in my thoughts often throughout the day.

Andrea

Sabs said...

That is so frustrating. Please know that there are many more nurses and doctors and other health care professionals that are NOTHING like that. The people I work with are lovely, helpful and very caring. Good luck, hope you are both happier at home together and FL can be in his own, familiar environment. Ask for as much help as you need, it is there xx

Julesy said...

Ooooooooooooo I said some very not nice words when you spoke of that self-important, passive-aggressive little so-and-so of a nurse! I'm so glad FL is home. He'll be more comfortable in familiar surroundings. Thinking of you both always. xx

Coco said...

Hope things go smoothly, Roo, so you can get a little rest and FL recuperates from that hospital experience. Strange, isn't it, how just one person can cause such turmoil. I really dislike that kind of behavior in people. I can only think that she must be an incredibly unhappy person, and she creates her own misery. Thinking of you and FL, Coco

Jane Neave said...

So glad to hear FL is home and you can now give him the care he needs. I nursed my mum until she passed away last year and I'm so glad I did I treasure every minute we had together. Take care of yourself too and keep strong. I'm so glad I found your blog and know you have so many thinking of you both. Sending you love and strength xxx

Mog said...

Glad you are both ho!e and away from that awful nurse. I second the suggestion of PALS. Appallingly poor care of you both.

Take care of yourself as well, and keep knitting. Xx

Lizzi said...

Yes - you will be fine - great to hear he is safe home.

ambermog said...

Just catching up on last few days, sorry been absent Roo but you know what chemo is like. I am sending all the positive vibes and strength for you both that Wecan , along with my love and support if there is anything at all I can do. You are most welcome to my phone number even if you just need someone to listen. Sending karma back 3 fold to the b--ch of a nurse. Not that that helps you two I know but what goesRound comes around and she will reap the benefits . Strength, love, vibes xxx

Clamball said...

Gosh how terrible of that nurse. I have been in hospital for the last 5 days with my daughter. When we press the buzzer it rings in the nurses station and also a light outside the door of her isolation room comes on. Someone has to physically come into the room to cancel the buzzer, so they have to find out what the issue is. One day the nurse forgot to cancel the buzzer and was in the room dealing with the IV and about 2 minutes later a care assistant came in to find out why no nurse had been by. She had come all the way from the other side of a long ward because of the buzzer had not been cancelled. We normally press the buzzer because the IV machine needed attention.

There is so much a hospital management system can do to ensure buzzers are answered in timely fashion, and not leave it to the whims of the staff on duty.

Sarahel said...

I too am really glad to hear you're home, and away from those unnecessary additional stresses. Hope too that the local support is soon in place, and is all you would wish. Take good care of you both. XO

Mad about Craft said...

I am a retired nurse and I'm appalled by her behaviour! She should be struck off!

I hope all goes well and you both have some peace at this season!

lilysgrannie said...

Glad to hear FL is home and away from the stresses of hospital procedures. They are not restful places and that horrible nurse didn't make it any better. You will provide better care for him and hopefully you have someone who can come in now and then to provide you with some respite care? Sending peaceful thoughts your way!

TempestKnits said...

I'm so glad FL is home! I really don't know why people who obviously love antagonising vulnerable people have the opportunity to work in a 'caring profession' - it really is beyond me.

Su-z said...

Yes, you will be fine. Hospitals can be terrible places for sick people, and sometimes so much more comfort at home. I do wonder why that lady wanted to be a nurse, unless she likes making sick people more miserable. Nursing care can make the biggest difference! I'm sure FL will sleep better at home, and be much more comfortable. Just make sure you have a good road map to follow, and you will feel better too. Like the purple and blue. Can't wait to see the completed socks.

Lynne said...

I caught up today, reading yesterday and today, and I am curious... is there not a Hospice program in the UK?? I thought it all began there. I worked as a Hospice nurse in the US, and when the patient was sent home the doctor would contact us, and we would send a team in...nurse, social work, spiritual care...which may or may not be needed, but we could at least help arrange for all the services and cover taking care of any nursing or pain needs or care needs, like special beds etc... and at the time of death we would also come out, to be a support to the family and to help provide for the patient's needs and be a sort of bridge... and then there were also grieving and bereavement services afterward.... for up to a year. So I am wondering if your nurse would know?

It is up to you, but it just sounds so much like you could use a lot of help and personal support... and with Hospice there was always someone to call at any time day or night to ask if pain got out of control or there were other problems. So it was a comfort for the family and the patient. Anyway... off my soap box or suggestion box... wishing you only the very best and lovely lovely times with your FL!!

Roobeedoo said...

I thought our doctor was going to refer FL to the hospice but it has not been mentioned since he was admitted to hospital. I am hoping that MacMillan will help us navigate the system because it is not at all clear to me!

Violet said...

Down in our area of Scotland we have the Marie Curie hospices and my mother's admission was arranged through the local Marie Curie nurse. They could get things done so much quicker than we could - they arranged for the delivery of her hospital bed to our home and adaptation devices to allow her to sit and bathe comfortably in our house (which wasn't an ideal house for an invalid). Hopefully your MacMillan nurse can help you with this.

Twelfthknit said...

I am disgusted by that nurse. As a nurse and as a patient I have met nurses like that. The very last thing you need is her. I hope things are better at homecsndctgatvyou are all getting the support you need

Aire and Angel said...

Thinking of you.